PART I
i love a new year, i love the clinking of champagne glasses, the sincere kisses, the sparklers and cheering; the resolutions and hope and smiles, the patience and love.
we are officially two weeks away from January first and although the holidays have yet to start, i’m already thinking about a new year, the changes i want to make, the ones i want to see in the world, and my role in all of it.
many people utilize a new year to implement positive habits such as working out, eating healthier, spending more time with loved ones, traveling more, buying a home or starting a family…
i’m a huge advocate for self care, and self love. i truly don’t think anyone can love another being without loving themselves first. and maybe that’s the relationship we all seek to work on with each new year; the one with ourself.
my thought process this year has been different. i want to make sure that everyday i make someone else feel good about themselves. i want to spread kindness, whether that’s paying it forward at starbucks, waving thank you to the officer directing traffic, making small talk with the person next to me on a long line, or complimenting someone’s smile… everyday i want to make sure i do something for someone.
this may sound strange to some, but i feel everyone’s emotions around me. i haven’t talked about it on here or with people in a very long time. i never used to understand why i was always so affected by everything and everyone when i didn’t want to be. some of us are just like that. i can feel emotions, both positive and negative and with the end of the year, the holidays, and stress, i can feel it coming off of everyone around me. i can feel the short patience, the frustrations, and it truly affects my day.
yesterday, i just couldn’t handle any more human interaction and needed to heal and reset at home. part of that is being an introvert, but i always feel this emotional exhaustion deeper during the weeks between thanksgiving and Hanukkah / Christmas. to be honest, had just one person each day said something kind, did something nice, i don’t think i would have felt as spent as i did by the end of this past week.
if you’re feeling the negativity that comes with the holiday season, become part of the cause with me. we can practice self care and self love and still do more for others whether it’s the people we know or strangers. i hope that as a whole we can come together to spread a little more happy these next two weeks and into the new year. practice a little more patience in the car or waiting on line, smiling at the cashier who has probably already been yelled at, holding the door for someone, even just a friendly hello… these small acts go so far always but especially at this time in the year.
PART II
the other consuming thought i’ve had recently is regarding our relationship with each other. i keep having these conversations about sensitivity. i know a lot of people who feel as i do, that we’ve become too sensitive without accepting that we each have our own ideals, thoughts, experiences that shape us. many times these will be conflicting and that is ok, we can and should still respect that person, love, and admire them even if you don’t agree with them.
feeling like you can’t express yourself because someone may be offended or take it personally has become a real issue. and it hinders our progress as a race and a nation. we need to be able to have real conversations, debates, without people stomping their feet and covering their ears at the first disagreeable statement. being open minded and wanting to learn and understand a person’s input is sometimes challenging but if we are teaching our children to use their words, to create their own thoughts, and learn from the people around them and the experiences they have, then shouldn’t we as adults, do the same and set the example? i’m going to try harder to be constructive, concise, and to see from someone else’s viewpoint. that doesn’t mean i’ll change my stance and it doesn’t mean they must change theirs to suit mine. it just means that we are each learning something about a topic, about that person, about what is important to them and maybe even why.
my hope is that some of you will join me these next to weeks and into 2020, adding just a couple more resolutions to your list.
i love you all and hope you have the most wonderful holiday and end of 2019.
you are special, important, loved, and admired.
never change who you are.
continue to grow into the person you want to be and spread a little fairy dust along the way.
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